First blog and hoping I'm not the only one, having been in long term ( too long ) relationship
and now wants to actually be happy with a partner.
Sounds simple enough right?
It couldn't be farther from the truth, I have children mostly grown ( cause they never REALLY are, are they?)
So where to start in this high-tech world we live in?
I have never had a problem getting a date but who has time to go out and meet quality men?
So, I thought what the heck I'll look at a few dating sites.... you can look for free and these must be the "normal" members. I saw a nice decent looking guy and that sent a "Hey I'm desperate, I mean looking too" or a flirt/ wink whatever they call it.
Of course I get an instant reply. So I do what any semi-middle aged no action person would do. I whipped that credit card out so fast it looked like I was seeing a sale at Victoria Secret.
And did the bare minimum you know the ONE month $20/30.00. Whatever it took to get this message and see how messed up my life could possibly be.
And it was a "normal guy" lots of great pictures same age range. Nothing vulgar just a decent conversation. Ok maybe this isn't as bad as I thought.
So even though I hate pictures of me, not because I'm hideous I just hate to see pictures of myself. I posted a picture. ( Not a great one just a picture)
Well, the next evening I logged in and the flood gates had opened!
48 messages! One was an over 60+ gentleman that assured me he could still get it up! Forget the fact he had not a tooth one in his head.
Mind you this was local to my area so I was stunned! Most were divorced, never married, or looked like they were camping out in Mom and Dad's basement, I'm no grammar queen but if you can't spell beautiful or make a sentence I assume a job is out of the equation?
I can't imagine meeting someone on here, but I'm still thinking ok open mind, open mind.
A week later I bite the bullet, picked seemingly normal guy and meet for coffee.
That went well, for the most part of course there was the awkward moments but after few hours we decide to get lunch.
Ok first date out of the way.
In the meantime I had few messages on that dating site that was still coming in, prior to the date I was messaging another normal business man, clean cut, good conversation.
Then "poof" my battery in my phone kicks the bucket. So I order a new one.
I'm not home much during the day so it is the only way to check my messages or e-mail.
And this certain guy was very much doing the innuendos, and I got the feeling he was just odd I had already decided not to talk to him much if ever.
I woke up to ... I guess you found out who Iam due to your last job....... I have no idea what he is talking about, he goes on to say there is a lot of issues with our justice system and that he would like to explain. And a lot of negative feelings I had which I already did anyway.
So I politely messaged him told him I had no idea what the hell his problem is and I'm pretty sure I was not wanting to. But good luck to them and to have a nice day.
They begged a chance to explain I declined.
Last night I'm talking to my friend on the phone and it hit me to search this person out.
I'm almost positive they are on the sex offender registry! OMG REALLY !
Could this get any better ?
And you think I want to met you for you to explain to me? I already got your sexual comments that was not really welcome or in the conversation, and wanted to know if that was a deal breaker ?
YES! I can't even imagine you wondering that, now I'm not sure but the picture looks the same, date of birth matches and age and area they live. I think that's too much similarities for me.
So in the meantime, I have been hit with messages from the coffee/lunch date, wondering if I'm ok? I do not get home until late in the evening during the week and had made that very clear. Who started messaging in the afternoon.
Needless to say I have not logged into that site in 3 days, I can't take another rash of crazy,
I think I will take my chances on chance encounters or whatever.
I'm not that desperate. Nor am I a snob. But really ? I don't live in the sticks and we have electricity and running water.
But I'm not going to deal with crazy LOL !
